A couple of patients reminded me of an important lesson recently.
When bad or hard things happen to us in our lives, it is reflexive to ask “Why?”
“Why did this happen to me?” we say as we wonder silently, or maybe aloud. We are searching for meaning or a lesson in the event that was predetermined, fixed, static.
Whether it is a death or a diagnosis in the life of someone we love, it is easy to ask why and then get stuck. “Why?” “Why?” “Why?” Unfortunately, no booming voice comes out of the sky to announce the lesson and make everything alright.
On the other hand, it is more empowering to be co-creators with God and to look forward to ask the more productive, action-oriented question of “How?”
The question is, “How can this experience (even if it is tragic) work for good in my life and in the life of others?”
The “How can this work?” question is one of faith. The “How” expects lessons to be learned, perspective to be changed, and new meaning to come to light.
Don’t misunderstand me. The “How” question is not a quick fix. It can take months or even years to discover an answer. But when an answer is found, it is an answer we can trust for bringing new purpose and meaning into our lives. It is like discovering a deep, life-giving water for our dry, thirsty, parched lives.
So I ask you my readers, how have hard, difficult events been used in your life to change you and impact the lives of others, with God’s help?
I’d love to hear the “How” of your lives in the comments below.
Peace be with you.