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If You Have Ever — Day 39

If you have ever had a catastrophic event happen in your life where everything was fine one day, and the next day your life was changed forever, you understand.

If you have ever loved someone with your whole heart and s/he died suddenly without warning and you lived in shock and numbness for weeks, months, or even years, you understand.

If you have ever had a friend or family member suffer with cancer, Alzheimer’s disease, HIV, or any other illness that caused an enormous amount of suffering for the patient and for the caregiver, you understand.

If you have ever had the hopes and dreams of a marriage crumble before your eyes even when you tried to do everything you could do to save it, you understand.

If you have ever put your trust in someone completely without reservation only to find out that you had been misled or lied to, you understand.

If you have ever been hungry, or without a home, or suddenly without a job, you understand.

If you are ever been so overwhelmed by debt that you could not pay your bills, you understand.

If you have ever pretended to be one type of person to the world when you were another, you understand.

And what do you understand if you have experienced any of these things?

You understand that there are times in your life when you need something or someone who is greater than yourself to get you through it.  You know you simply cannot do it by yourself.

You understand there is nothing left to do except to ask a greater power than yourself, “Please God, help me through this.”

And when we understand this truth, we can ask, let it go, and trust, that somehow the strength will come, and it will.

  • Ask.
  • Let it go.
  • Trust.

Thanks be to God.


  1. Shannon

    I remember the day I was drowning in feelings of loss and misdirection. Out loud I called to the Lord, “God, I need your help!” In that moment, I felt the clouds part and clarity returned. His Grace allowed me to see where I had been and to know where I needed to go. If I had not asked for help, I might have strayed irrevocably from the path He wanted me to follow. Thanks be to God.

  2. Cynthia Webster

    All praises to the most high! He is the head of my life. Without him I am nothing or nobody. Thanks Malcolm, for we all need to be reminded that we can find comfort and everything we need in Jesus!

  3. Malcolm

    Dear Shannon, your story is inspiring and a great reminder to admit when we need help. So often we keep on trying to work it all out ourselves which adds to our frustation and loneliness. Peace be with you my friend.

  4. Malcolm

    Dear Cynthia, you are such a positive bright light in this world. You are a great source of encouragement for more people than you realize. Hugs to you.

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