If we live long enough, we will have the opportunity to help a friend or a family member during times of grief.
So how can you help? How can you make a difference in someone’s life during difficult times?
There is one simple principle to remember:
“Help a person feel what they are feeling when they feel it.”
- If your friend is crying, encourage the tears and become comfortable with them.
- If your family member is mad, ask them to tell you more and then be quiet.
- If he retreats and is quiet with his grief, reassure him that everyone grieves in their own way.
- If she is afraid she will never get over this, encourage her to talk about it more and don’t try to fix it.
Just show up, even when it’s uncomfortable for you. Your presence is more healing than you know.
Grief is our teacher (for the one going through it and the one helping) in life about what is most important if we are open to it.
Keep showing up when everyone else has returned to their routine.
And if you do this one simple principle my friend, you will make a difference in this world.