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Taking Time to Remember

My wife, Mary, has a blog that recently reminded me of the importance of centering myself, being still, and getting back in touch with my spirit and that which is greater than me.

And so this morning before I dive in to work, I want to be quiet and reflective.  Writing helps me to remember.

I breathe deeply from my diaphragm through my nose.  Over and over again.  And I remember.

I remember last night being clear and without humidity, and the millions of stars popping out of the sky as we sat on the deck.  And the night sounds of country living at the lake that include cicadas and tree frogs.

I remember close friends who spent time with us over the weekend.  Time for long conversations and the sharing of dreams. Why don’t I do this more often?  This is part of what gives life meaning.

I remember the laughter of children who loved swimming in the lake and riding in the boat.  I marveled at my godsons’ kayaking abilities and his maturity, while also remembering the day he was born that seemed like yesterday.

As I drove out of the driveway from our home this morning, I slowed down two or three times to let the wild bunny rabbits get out of the way.  The sunrise was spectacular on our county road.  I laughed out loud a couple of miles later when two newborn calves were chasing one another looking like puppies bouncing as they ran awkwardly in the pasture.

I remember how thankful I am for my marriage to Mary Beatrice Sullivan.  We celebrated our sixth anniversary yesterday with friends, and then planned an upcoming getaway weekend.

I remember that Mary Sullivan has changed my life. I was lost after my divorce in 1996, my father died in 1998, and I had eventually given up on finding a life-giving marriage after seven plus years.  But on January 29, 2003, I was swept off my feet by Mary.  I have been happy and in love with her ever since.

We married on July 4, 2004 and it is hard for me to put into words what she means to me.  Her spirit reminds me to live life fully every day.

Mary has also given me the opportunity to be a stepdad to Brendan and Kiki.  I have always wanted to be a dad and this gift is grace for me.

I remember I have so much to be thankful for.

Thank you God for being with me, even when I forget.

Today, I remember.


  1. The Clancy Clan

    Wanna know what we remember? (This is a collective memory)

    A day full of laughter, time to breathe and time to wonder at God’s magnificent creation.

    A warmth that only comes from old friendships. The blueness of a friend’s eyes whose depth has no end.

    The wisdom of a woman whose spirit often feels other-worldly and is deep and infectious and makes us feel wrapped in love better than any old quilt even can.

    The joy of friends who share the task of being part of the village that surrounds and uplifts our children.

    The surprise that one of those children has grown into such a lovely lady. It seems like yesterday that we first met that young girl.

    The reminder that we are surrounded by “Thank You God” moments every day and in millions of little ways, if only we open our eyes to them.

    Thank you for our time together this weekend, dear friends.

  2. Malcolm

    Dear Clancy Clan, you have said it so well. Friendships are our extended family. Hugs to you all.

  3. Mary Tittle

    Good to see you’re blogging again. Congratulations to you & Mary on your anniversary! Sunday was a very special 4th of July. The weather was perfect & the sounds & sights of nature were awesome. I took my granddaughter outdoors last week to look for cicada shells & to catch lightening bugs. It’s always good to share the good childhood memories with someone else.

  4. Malcolm

    Thanks so much Mary for the encouragement! I am glad to hear about your special time with your granddaughter!

  5. Sandra Langston

    So glad you’re sharing your writings again. I have missed them. Congratulations on your anniversary and your happiness.

  6. Malcolm

    Sandra, it’s always good to hear from you. Hope you are well.


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