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I Remember

I remember:

  • How pretty and stylish she always was.
  • She made my father laugh when I thought grief had stolen his laughter.
  • She sat in the middle of the bench seat in the car so that she could be closer to my Dad.
  • How she gently taught me to use proper manners in nice restaurants, what silverware to use and when, and how to treat a woman with respect and dignity.
  • Her kindness and patience with a 13 year old son and 15 year old daughter, though she had never been a parent.
  • What a wonderful cook she was.
  • She took apples and other snacks to share with her second grade students whose only meal for the day was the one in the school lunch room.
  • She fed the hungry, visited the elderly, and encouraged the discouraged.
  • She listened.
  • How I had the cleanest football uniform on the team in middle and high school because she washed it all every single night.
  • When the two of us were driving to church one Sunday night she said, “You want to skip church tonight and get some ice cream?”  As a preacher’s kid I loved her for that one exception.
  • How she loved every girl I ever dated.
  • The way she believed in me and loved me.
  • Her authentic humility.
  • How she was the best caregiver of the sick and dying I’ve ever seen.
  • She believed that every person needed a spouse or someone special to be happy.  And Garland, Lewis, and Bill were her proof.

As I sit by her bed, I remember.

What do you remember of the persons who have touched your life?


  1. Robin Naramore Reid

    I still have the necklace and book that Jimmie Ruth and your dad gave me as a graduation present. I remember telling her a gift wasn’t ncessary and her telling me that I was the only one that sent them a graduation invitation that year.

    They both were special people to me. Your dad baptized me at GFBC. I remember Jimmie Ruth telling me she always kept peanut butter and crackers and other snacks at school and even if a child said they were hungry and it was near lunch time – that she provided them with a snack because she couldn’t stand the fact that most of these children only had food that was provided them at school. I will never forget that story because it truely made me understand just how “Rich” I really was. God bless your family at this time – I know what you are going through because my mother just passed on July 5th.

  2. Malcolm

    Dear Robin,

    Thank you for sharing your memories of my Mom. I am so sorry to hear about the death of your mother recently.

    Peace to you,

  3. Jane Hull

    Malcolm –
    Know that you are in our prayers during this difficult time. We love you!!!

    Jane and David Hull

  4. Shannon

    Dear Malcolm,

    You and your mother are in my prayers. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. This recent post ‘I Remember’ highlights for me the type of mother and person I wish to be. What a beautiful role model she has been for you! You previous post about your mom brought back memories for me of caring for my grandmother, who was a second mother for me, when she was sick in the hospital. She gave me so much throughout my life. My ability to be there for her, to bring her water, to wipe her face, was such a blessing and one of the most memorable times in my life. Again, thank you for sharing and I will be praying.


  5. Ruben Swint


    I am sorry to learn of your Mom’s illness.

    Margie and I are praying for you.

    Your presence at my father’s funeral was a significant gift to me and my family. Thank you for that, and for a lot more.

    Peace and Blessings,

  6. Malcolm

    Thanks so much Jane, Shannon and Ruben. it is good to have close friends who care, It helps hold me up.


  7. Bea Davis

    Thinking of you and cherishing my precious memories of Jimmie and your Dad my life is richer because they were such an important part!!

  8. Diane Moore Selman

    I remember your mom and my mom teaching Sunday night Training Union for years. What a special friendship for my mom! Please know that you are in our prayers and thoughts during this time. We love the Marler family.

    Huland and Betty Moore

  9. Malcolm

    Diane, Huland, Betty, and Bra, thank you for your memories. They make me smile.


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