This is the twenty-second in a series written by Malcolm Marler and Mary Bea Sullivan, husband and wife, about their journey as Mary, an author, goes to Virginia Theological Seminary to get her Master of Divinity degree and eventually become an Episcopal priest. Malcolm is a director of pastoral care at a hospital in Alabama.
Routine gives us stability in a chaotic world. When change is happening all around us, we crave predictability where at least some of our decisions are familiar and easy. Without routine, frustration and feelings of disconnection are common.
After having a great summer with Mary home from seminary from May-August, we both cried this past Sunday as we packed up her car and she began the 750 mile drive to Virginia to start her “Middler” year (2 of 3) at Virginia Theological Seminary just outside of DC.
A week earlier, we had sold our home on Smith Lake in North Alabama and moved to downtown Birmingham close to my work.
I find myself this week trying to develop new routines which I know will take some time. There are still pictures to be hung on the walls, but that’s ok. I feel slightly better prepared in this second year of “our” seminary experience, though it is still unsettling and challenging.
I’m thankful that I can walk to the gym for my workouts and to my office. Our aging lab, Daisy, and I are learning a new route for walking in the downtown area. She is grateful to walk anywhere together, and I’ve found her to be a good teacher.
Last evening, I took a picture of a sunset from our balcony in Birmingham, which I had done hundreds of times from our deck at the lake. Somehow, that helped to see that beautiful sunset. Thank you God for sunsets.
Finding little things to be grateful for helps with transition. And this is something I can choose, to be grateful. It is good medicine.
And so we begin Year Two. I mark on my calendar when I will be flying to DC to see Mary in a couple of weeks, thank you God. And I refocus on my challenges and joys in my ministry which I am so thankful for at the hospital. Thank you, thank you.
When have you developed new routines? What did you learn in the process? I’d love to hear from you.
In the meantime, thank you.