This is the second in a series written by Malcolm Marler and Mary Bea Sullivan, husband and wife, about their journey as Mary, an author, prepares to go to Virginia Theological Seminary. Malcolm is a director of pastoral care at a hospital in Alabama.
HE SAID… by Malcolm Lewis Marler
Mary and I recently signed the papers to sell our house on Smith Lake in North Alabama. Hopefully we will close towards the end of June,.
This was my dream house that I built nine years ago. I love the water. The one-hour daily commute each way to work was worth it.
And then I fell in love with Mary Sullivan six months later. She and Brendan and Kiki moved here from North Carolina and my house became our home.
I have enjoyed hundreds of sunsets, flowers, wildlife, and people that we shared in this place. Mary and I have led spiritual retreats here. We have broken bread around the table with family, old and new friends, and we have shared a glass of wine or iced tea on the deck.
And now we have sold this house with the furniture. Yep, everything. We will take our clothes and a few other personal items, but more about that later. This life giving seed took root in a series I wrote over a year ago called my “Simplicity Journey.”
The impending freedom from all of the “things” that have “owned me” is life giving. We won’t have a mortgage or the responsibility to take care of so much stuff. We hope to live more simply, faithfully, and generously.
Letting go of stuff allows many new dreams to flourish from unexpected places. It is a wonderful new adventure.
This freedom is new for me. I am excited, my step is quicker, and my creative energy is flowing. I don’t know where this is going to lead us. And I can’t wait to find out.
So my good friend, the answer to your question is, “No, it is not hard leaving this place. Not at all. Really. The time is right. It’s a different phase of my life. I’m learning that home is not confined to a structure. Life is about relationships.”
Have you ever experienced anything like this in your life? Tell us about it.
Peace be with you.